Things I Miss from my Bachelorette Days

My husband and I have known each other for a decade now. While I’m happily married, there are things I miss from bachelorette days. Well, don’t get me wrong. Marrying the love of my life was a dream come true moment for me, but as they say, the grass is always greener on the other side, isn’t it? When we women say “I do”, we literally give it our all. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t incredible things about being single. No matter how small or insignificant those things are, we still miss them, right?

If you’re someone who has just got married, you’ll definitely relate to this. Whether it’s doing what you want or making your own financial decisions, there are little things we all tend to miss. Whether you’re married or are in a relationship, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with missing your bachelorette days. Therefore, stop feeling guilty about it.

7 Things I Miss about Being Single

Here’s what I miss the most:

Disclaimer – Do not judge me!

• Going Weeks without Waxing/Shaving

I’m someone who gets my hands and legs waxed once a month. However, since the time I’m married, I’m finding the need to go to the parlour at least once in two weeks. Not because I go out that often but mainly because I live with my in-laws. Braiding my leg hair has now become something of the past *laughs*. Sitting with hairy legs in front of them just makes me uncomfortable and that’s why I feel the need to wax/shave often.

In my parent’s house, I would sit the way I wanted and nobody even cared. Also, before marriage, a bikini wax was only required for holidays and special occasions. But now, I get it at least once a month.

• Hanging out with my Girl Gang

Although I still hang out with my girl gang, it’s not as often as it used to be. When I was single, I would go out with my girls at least once in two weeks. From brunches to parties to nail dates, I would do it all. Sadly, these fun plans have taken a backseat. Also, since I’m talking about my girls, I really miss the fun bachelorette party they threw for me. We literally created memories for a lifetime, and seeing the pictures today makes me want to rewind to those times. Being married doesn’t mean I can’t meet them, but the frequency has definitely reduced. Now they’re limited to once-a-month-type plans.

• Spontaneous Plans

I’m a very spontaneous person, and I just take plans as they come. Now that I live with another person and a new family altogether, I just can’t randomly get out of the house. Whether it’s a random dinner or a spontaneous road trip, I need to be watchful of my partner’s schedule too. Since I obviously want to spend time with him and make memories, I just compromise on my plans. When I was single, I just had to worry about myself. I simply had to assess if the decisions I was making worked for me. That’s it!

• Granny Panties & Tattered Nightwear

All you girls would definitely relate to this! Having a large and ugly, but comfortable pair of panties is something I miss from my bachelorette days. Not to forget, they had weird prints too. Just before I got married, I discarded most of them but kept a couple of grannies at hand. My mum simply asked me to toss them out. Two reasons behind this – they were ugly and secondly, I didn’t want to be judged by the other people in the house when they saw the ugliest pair of undies drying on the common clothes rack. You feel me, right?   

Another thing I miss is my tattered nightwear. But c’mon! They were so soft and literally gave me all the beauty sleep I needed. Now it’s all about cute night-suit sets.

• Binge-watching my Favourite Show

This is something I miss so much! It’s not that I don’t get to watch TV but now it’s not just my likes that matter. I’ve spent my entire single life watching the most mindless shows without being judged. So, my husband and I have a routine post-dinner where we decide what to watch. By the time we reach a common ground, it’s too late, and I’m literally falling asleep. During my bachelorette days, I would quickly surf through Netflix, find a show and watch it. Also, not to forget our TV remote fights. Well, I guess that’s what marriage is all about.

• Flirting

As weird as it sounds – yes, I do miss flirting. Though people say flirting is great for well-being and generates positivity, it still doesn’t make the cut once you’re married. There is no way you can justify flirting when you’re in a relationship. I actually miss the excitement of first times – first kiss, first cuddle, etc.

• Spending Money the Way I Want

You might think that it’s your hard-earned money and you get to spend it the way you want. Well, gone are those days once you enter a wedlock. You and your partner might be both making the money but the way you spend it isn’t your decision alone. Now it’s all about “couple expenses”. You tend to stop splurging the way you used to. I now think ten times before buying something expensive. That’s also because we have travel plans and so many other expenditures to think of. During my bachelorette days, I would swipe my card without a tinge of guilt. Plus, back then my dad was paying my credit card bill. Now I’m the captain of my own ship.

While I genuinely do love my partner, I still daydream about being single. When my single friends tell me I’m so lucky to be married, I tell them they’re so lucky that they can still enjoy singlehood. Well, that’s the problem with life. You always want what you don’t have.

Did you find these things relatable? If yes, share this blog with all your married girlfriends.